Motivation Isn’t Missing…

It’s Just Buried Under Self-Sabotage.

I can give you the best workouts (and I will) and the best nutrition advice (I’ll do that too), but if someone can’t stick to it, then what’s the point? If you were to ask me what the number one challenge is that I see my clients deal with, I’d tell you it’s their motivation.

Despite beginning to feel better than they have in years. Despite the chronic pain in their backs and knees dissolving in just weeks. Despite their mobility returning with what seems like minimal effort in the gym. Motivation becomes their Achilles’ heel.

Take a past client of mine, for example. We’ll call her Megan.

Megan showed up two to three times a week and went from the 16 lb “baby bar” to squatting close to 100 lbs within a matter of months, all while her knee pain—pain that once caused her to limp—faded away. She felt strong, and her quality of life greatly improved. What she struggled with was the motivation to nourish herself appropriately.

This meant it took a while for her body composition to begin to change, which was also demotivating at times. All of this occurred well before I learned to coach people through mindset work. Instead, I just kept explaining the science of it all and the “why.” I would tell her what she “needed” to do—all the things most coaches do, not realizing that’s actually not moving the needle.

When I’ve discussed this with other coaches (the ones who actually get it and have similar philosophies on nutrition and exercise) they too say that getting people to follow through with nutrition is common. The other all-too-familiar issue is how many stop showing up to their workouts altogether.

So, while hiring a coach will greatly increase your chances of reaching your fitness goals, even coaches have a surprisingly low success rate keeping clients for the long haul. This often leads to coaches blaming clients for not wanting it badly enough, being lazy, or even firing the client for not sticking to the plan. But the reality is, it’s the coach who is ill-equipped!

This is where learning Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and Self-Determination Theory comes heavily into play. A coach who is trained to adapt those into their coaching practice can dig into why Megan is struggling with nutrition, find out what’s getting in her way on a deeper level, support her in finding solutions, and help her build the confidence to keep at it without outside help. Not as a therapist, but as a guide.

Over time, it becomes who she is, and it supports the reason she wanted to get healthy in the first place. That is where motivation drives discipline, which creates faster, more satisfying results.

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